Most of our productive time in our life span we spend in office. In fact it is the most important phase of our life since we have to earn bread for self and family. Sadly most of us don’t have happiness at work place. We encounter politics, which not only put us down at work place but also destroys peaceful family life. Because we haven’t learned how to keep office at the doorstep when we enter home. Easy to say but difficult to practice.
85% of the people working in Middle East experience and complaint of office politics. I worked in MNC s in India as well as across Middle East. I have experienced it. Every one of us experience this one day or other .There is a lot of difference in office politics we experience in Middle East and in India. In Middle East conditions it is difficult to escape due legal bindings of the immigration laws (employment ban system). Even one wish to escape makes it difficult to do so. It is more than just office politics, it is virtually blackmailing from seniors using laws. Many of us suffer a lot looking at family and their needs back home.
Who indulges in these types of activities? Why they do that? What they want? We will discuss a few things over here. I have noticed one important point; whoever approaches me for counselling for whatever problem they face and talk about, definitely difficulties at office is an integral part of their problem. Being born and brought up in the same environment also, we lack harmony at home. So we can’t expect our office place to be a perfect one because we come there from different walks of life with different beliefs, traditions, education and religious background.
Generally we encounter problem because we don’t have or try to get enough insights about the problem itself. So at times small things become magnified images and we feel desperate unnecessarily. The first thing to do when we encounter any problem is, to study the nature of the problem thoroughly. In this scenario that has to start with studying person’s profile who is dominating and troubling you. Most of those people I have seen are only kids to their parents (or only male or female among other kids pampered from childhood). They haven’t taught how to share love and respect others. They always received it. These people always carry a high level of superior complex over others. What they know and do is right! Highly egoistic and narcistic in nature.
One of the big mistakes we commit is to put a full stop to further qualification once we are employed. We end up with average necessary qualification to get employment and stop there .Knowledge is the best weapon to deal and beat anything. We give various reasons to stop it. We do not even try to have necessary additional qualification to get internal promotions or to go out and take up a new challenge. That is why at the end of the day it is our laziness that lands us in all sorts of troubles. A determined mind can achieve anything. Age is not a criteria .Try to go up one step further than your troublesome boss. The best way to beat them is to gain more qualification and efficiency than they have.
Having an additional talent is always very useful in these types of scenarios. Find out what is hidden inside you. Bring it out,nurture and use it on daily basis and see the difference. Have an impact in office. Stand out differently with your own trade mark .For Eg– If you have writing qualities / singing ability/ if you can play music instrument / if you are a good speaker etc don’t hide those good qualities. Bring it to the front at least in your own domain. These qualities will generate you enough recognition and respect at the work place.
Don’t keep distance from your troublesome boss’s superiors. In some pretence try to be communicating them. Generally we don’t do this for inviting more wraths from our troubling boss. This move will help in keeping a check on your immediate boss. The other mistake we do is keeping away from groups. Be a member of the group which is against your boss. Sometimes diplomacy won’t work but a similar weapon works.
In majority of the organisations HR is not active. Their only role is salary distribution. What human resource management they do is a big question. Wherever HR is active you may bring into their notice. I successfully did this once in Middle East when I was working for a Dutch company. This may be used only when you know that HR is active and they listen to you and they have a set agenda to deal with problems like this. Or else your problems may escalate further. It is really sad to notice that majority of the office set ups don’t have any agenda to deal with this contagious issue; hence most of the quality office time and manpower goes in waste and unproductive.
Study the office environment well. Do your own appraisal. See what you should have and lack. Don’t be parasitic on others at office. Be efficient enough to do your job in time and independently. Use your resources wisely to cover up any drawbacks. You will be bullied more if you are parasitic. Be creative and always have innovative ideas to finish a job or meet a deadline.
Sometimes love can make wonders. It is not that always we should deal firmly with negative elements. Pouring love over hatred may bring out best results the way base neutralises the acid. Connection at the family level may help reduce this menace. Visiting your boss’s house in some pretence with your family members at times especially with kids could be helpful.
Communicating directly with the trouble maker may also help. Trying to find out from him why he does what he does actually may help you get the insight. Most of the times they too are under severe stress from their superiors for results which they force on us. Immaturity plays a big role over here. Most of the managers don’t know how to communicate with their subordinate. They just show their authority and enforce on others their ideas. Generally these types of people are week in nature. They don’t possess strong personality traits and often are poor leaders. Remember only week people indulge in this type of activities. A strong person with admirable personality traits never behaves like this; instead he will lead by example. Here the catch is the person who involves in dirty politics is week and hence breakable with our efficiency. So at times it is our lack of efficiency that makes us suffer the discomfort at work place. So before complaining check where you stand.
There is one more category of boss’s. Don’t be surprised. Some boss’s are fearful of their subordinates. It is because once they notice that their subordinate is efficient and can deliver anything; they want to keep them in check fearing their own position in the company. Such people play big level games and don’t take rest until you exit.
The most efficient way to establish harmony at work place is to have a set agenda against practicing politics in office. Everyone’s goal is same there, to earn bread and butter for the family .Top management has to initiate this and set an agenda that set up and look after the cordial office environment. It is because at the end of the day it is the organisation going to pay for some person’s immaturity. Unfortunately what happens at most of the organisations is when they meet a specific set profit margins they feel that everything is going smoothly. So the top management don’t go to the root level and establish contact with ordinary work force. What they don’t understand is if they had done something seriously to contain office politics or any other issues related to human factor, the productivity would have gone up resulting in more profits than what the organisation is getting at present.
People who are the victim of this discomfort should know how to control their stress levels and emotions. They should learn how to leave office stress as they exit from office and enter the home cheerfully. Try to identify certain areas that you can control; it is not that everything is against you. Define an action plan to increase your happiness at work in the short and long term. Prepare a list of activities that gives you happiness. Physical activities like playing outdoor and indoor help reduce stress. Playing with kids is a great source of inspiration. Spending leisure time usefully also helps a lot (In Muscat every Friday at least one hour I spend in an Autism centre talking with Autistic children’s parents). Quitting is the very last option and certainly is not the right choice. It is because this disease is everywhere and you can’t be sure where you land up in the future.
All of us know the benefits of first impression. Your first few days of presentation at your new work place can make or break your rest of the days there. Be confident and charming from day one. Do a proper self appraisal; redefine your appearance, behavioural patterns and communication (ABC of image building) and make your enemy work hard to defeat you at work place!
The other possible solution or a slight relief could be breaking the glass ceiling (empowering women’s in office environment). Hardly any women managers even now in many organisations including the highly developed countries.
The time has come to restructure and redefine the role of HR department in a proper way. For any organisation the most valuable resource is human resource, not the machines. The primary role of the HR management should be to improve human productivity by increasing knowledge, skills and motivation of the work force. The organisation can’t grow just by recruiting people and distributing salary. Unfortunately in most of the organisations this is the only HR activity. A survey states that 75% of the people move from any company in private sector, the primary reason is office politics, not for additional benefits!! When there is no stability in the work force the organisation is going to suffer and progress will be limited.
Unfortunately there are no laws to deal with this menace. Surprisingly most of the organisations also don’t have any clear cut agenda or no agenda at all to deal with this problem even though it is the organisation going to suffer.
Before concluding I would like to share an important thing. I usually observe this and quite surprised also. Some people want to live with problems and having a problem (or perceiving so) itself is their comfort zone!! They are addicted to worrying and complaining. This attitude they don’t give up easily because they want to gain sympathy. Such people keep on complaining and do not come up in life because they do not move toward any resolution.
Dear readers, to deal with any problem effectively, arm yourself with knowledge.